Below is a list of “home
field” situations that often upset Post-Deployed Service Members & Veterans.
The reason for this is that in the “battlefield’
or “battle space,” any of these behaviors or scenarios, if displayed by the service members’ comrades could
result in people getting hurt or killed. These scenarios can bring about a sense of vulnerability, loss of control, and,
at times, flash of anger.
Civilians or Stateside Military
Improper training
Wrong decisions
Ignorance
Laziness
Shirking responsibility
Decreased situational awareness
Breaking rules of engagement
Fear
Freezing
“Stupidity”
Cavalier attitude
Loss of focus
Lack of contingency planning
Rogue behavior
Wishy-washy decision-making
Excuse making
Incompetence
Naiveté
Politicking
Slow behavior
Micromanaging
Questioning of orders
Underestimating others’ abilities
Not taking control
Second guessing
Not trusting or being
trustworthy
Not having enough intensity, urgency, or immediacy
Behaviors that family members in particular may demonstrating that my upset post-deployed
service members include, but are not limited to the following (consider how each would impact operation on deployment):
Spouse
Not taking care of or losing
important belongings; Being disorganized
Inability to make decisions or to make them quickly
Excessive talking
Passing along or concern with seemingly irrelevant information
Secretive behavior
(untrustworthy)
Taking things for granted
Not taking safety precautions for self and/or children.
Doing something wrong or inefficiently
Inadequate awareness
of surroundings
Questioning of decisions
Slow pace in behaviors
Micromanaging
Not reacting with urgency to situations
Children
Selective hearing
Decreased or variations in attention span
Egocentric behavior (regardless of age-appropriate)
Taking things for granted
Being greedy for more
Not taking care of
possessions
Impatience with tasks
Questioning of authority
Refusal to cooperate or “obey”
Outbursts or sudden gasps or screams (even in joyous)
Practical jokes
Getting inside personal space
Whining or complaining
Expressing entitlement
